Ten Signs That You Are Resisting Being Happy

Are you missing out on happiness? Well, your subconscious may be getting in the way. Beliefs that are buried deep in your subconscious mind kick out knee-jerk responses to situations you experience, that block you from can  beliefs that make it impossible to experience happiness. These beliefs create resistance to happiness, even if your potential to be happy is great.

Resistance to happiness can become a psychological attachment, a pattern so familiar that it literally becomes a self-sabotaging a way of life. How can you tell if this is the case? You need to look at the signs!

Think of these as 10 signs as manifestations of something deeper within your psyche. The underlying cause is an attachment to something negative. Negative attachments form in childhood when you learn what is right and wrong. Sometimes, you learn that it is wrong, or not advantageous (or just plain pointless) to be happy!

They key to resolving these issues is to make them conscious, where conscious choice resides. Do any of the following apply to you?

1. When you feel happy, you feel anxious that it won't last: Many people believe that if they allow themselves to be happy, they are setting themselves up to get blindsided by something terrible.

2. When you feel good, you feel guilty: Some people feel guilty when they enjoy themselves, as if they were doing something wrong.


3. You don't express your needs: Ignoring your needs is a sign that fulfillment is not something you are seeking.
 
4. You are overly focused on the needs of others: Focusing solely on the needs of others at the expense of your own is a disservice to you and others.


5. You cannot enjoy the moment: If you avoid the here and now, you are avoiding peace and presence.
 
6. You attract emotionally unavailable or self-centered people: A sure way to NOT be happy is to attract emotionally unavailable or narcissistic people.
 
7. You expect disappointment: Expecting disappointment keeps happiness at a distance.
 
8. You don't know your purpose in life: Lasting happiness comes when you are in contact with a meaningful purpose.
 
9. You avoid intimacy: When you avoid close relationships or shy away from deeper connections with people, you miss out on this aspect of life.
 
10. You relive the bad times, but observe the good times from a mental distance: Happy people tend to relive happy memories up close and view upsetting memories as if from a distance, like a neutral observer.

 

Read the full story by Mike Bundrant here at Natural News. It's a fascinating and very useful introduction to self-defeating behaviour.